The Attachment Style Test identifies your relationship patterns based on attachment theory — how early caregiving experiences shape the way you connect with others as an adult.
Why take it?
Your attachment style influences how you handle intimacy, conflict, and trust. Understanding it can help you build healthier, more secure relationships.
How does it work?
Rate how much each statement applies to you in relationships. Your results show your scores across four attachment styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized.
Attachment Style Test
Attachment theory describes how early relationships shape the way we connect with others as adults. This test identifies your dominant attachment style across four dimensions.
1. I find it easy to get close to others.
2. I feel comfortable depending on others.
3. I don't worry about being abandoned.
4. I can express my needs clearly to a partner.
5. I feel secure in my relationships.
6. I worry that my partner doesn't really love me.
7. I need a lot of reassurance from my partner.
8. I become anxious when my partner is unavailable.
9. I fear being abandoned by people I love.
10. I often wonder if my partner truly cares about me.
11. I prefer not to share my feelings with a partner.
12. I feel uncomfortable when others depend on me.
13. I value my independence over closeness.
14. I pull away when relationships become too intense.
15. I find it hard to trust others completely.
16. I both want and fear close relationships.
17. I sometimes feel confused about what I want from a partner.
18. I can feel overwhelmed by intimacy even when I crave it.
19. My relationships tend to be chaotic or unpredictable.
20. I sometimes push people away even when I want them close.
What Is Attachment Theory?
Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and later expanded by Mary Ainsworth, describes how early relationships with caregivers shape our emotional bonds throughout life. The patterns we develop in childhood tend to repeat in adult romantic relationships, friendships, and even workplace dynamics.
The Four Attachment Styles
Secure attachment develops when caregivers are consistently responsive and available. Anxious attachment forms when caregiving is inconsistent, leading to hypervigilance about relationships. Avoidant attachment develops when emotional needs are regularly dismissed, causing emotional suppression. Disorganized attachment often results from frightening or unpredictable caregiving experiences.
Can You Change Your Attachment Style?
Yes. Attachment styles are not fixed. Research shows that therapy, particularly Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), can help people develop more secure attachment patterns. Healthy relationships with securely attached partners can also gradually shift your attachment style over time.